Breaking up can be extremely difficult, whether you have been in a relationship before or this is your first relationship. Regardless of the conditions of the breakup-- and even if you were the one who wanted to the breakup-- breakups usually involve some amount of pain. Watch this Ted Talk on breakup recovery
What are normal reactions?
Feelings of sadness and grief
Anger
Disappointment
Feelings of hurt
Feeling overwhelmed by the thought of dating again
Worried you won't find anyone else
Obsessing about your ex and wondering whether s/he has moved on
What can you do?
Take care of your body by prioritizing sleep
Eat regularly
Reach out to the people who care about you
Maintain healthy boundaries with your ex-- don't be friends until or unless you are able to JUST be friends. Impose a 30 or 60-day no contact rule.
Use healthy rather than unhealthy coping (e.g., alcohol, cannabis, cigarettes, etc.)
Focus on other parts of your life that might need your attention (e.g., changing careers, moving apartments, dealing with your finances, etc.)